Well, the initial meeting went well. Very informative and left with a wealth of information that we’ll need to ‘eat up and digest.’ They provided us with information about Domestic Adoption, International Adoption, and Embryo Adoption.
Steve and I will most likely pursue a Domestic Adoption, with openness to adopting a full minority and/or bi-racial baby. Caucasian is certainly an option, but there is a much longer wait (can be up to four years). We even considered the idea of an international adoption, but I’m afraid that seems to be a little overwhelming with language barriers, etc. There is also the cost to consider — and domestic adoption is a little less expensive than an international one. Steve and I decided to potentially start the application process over the next several months, but we will not complete the process or allow our profile to go live until the new year so we can plan financially for this next step.
I do think I’ll be getting creative in finding ways to save for this adoption. The gals last night mentioned that some families have fundraisers or churches will sometimes assist with a fundraiser to raise the funds. While Steve and I are not broke, we take financial planning and living debt free very seriously. We are still paying for our IVF and this is going to cost us roughly around $22,000. Kristine and I used to sing a song called God Will Make A Way by Truth. The words went something like — ‘God will make a way where there seems to be no way. He works in ways we cannot see. God WILL make a way for me.’ We stand on that promise.
There was one part of the evening that kind of opened an old wound for me. The subject of Embryo Adoption… I thought I was going to be sick when they said the total cost averaged $5,000-$10,000 which included the embryo adoption and ALL medical expenses. I just shook my head thinking to myself, if only we knew. Of course we can’t turn back time, but I think I’ll beat myself up over this for a while. We live and learn — and I’ve always been a firm believer in no regrets. With that being said, I must say again — if only we knew.
I will continue to update you on our Adoption Adventures — and we ask that you continue to keep us in your thoughts and prayers. We love and appreciate each of you!! Sometimes I wish we could all sit down over a cup of joe and just laugh, cry and pray together. Be blessed.